鼓盆之戚

gǔ pén zhī qī

drumming on a bowl in grief (idiom, refers to Zhuangzi 莊子|庄子[Zhuang1 zi3] grieving for his lost wife)

fig. grief for a lost wife

鼓

gǔ

drum

盆

pén

basin

之

zhī

(possessive particle, literary equivalent of 的[de5])

戚

qī

(bound form) relatives; kin